Having trouble figuring out what you want to do?
Every time you ask yourself “What do I want to do?” you draw a blank. Or you think of 101 different things you could do and each of them looks equally enticing. The more you think about it or try to choose the more frustrated and stuck you get. And instead of moving forward with your life you are paralysed.
Sound familiar? That’s how I felt for long periods of my life. And here is the good news: There is nothing wrong with you. You are not stupid, lazy or a coward because you haven’t found or pursued the passion(s) of your life. Here are some of the reasons why you can’t figure out what you want to do.
If there is just a big fat nothing when you think of what you want to do it could be down to some of these factors. Maybe as a child or young adult you were never encouraged to express your wishes. Other people decided what was best for you until you forgot what YOU really wanted. The love of the parents is vital to a child. It feels like a life or death situation. No wonder you did everything you could to get or keep that love even if it meant saying yes to whatever they wanted for you. So, don’t be too hard on yourself. You repressed your own wishes in order to survive.
Then there is THE FEAR. The fear of going for what you really, really want. The fear is so big because if you fail at the one thing that is so important to you it feels like a really big deal. This fear can block you from ever taking one step in that direction. Your mind will come up with excuses of why this is not really that important to you, you don’t really want it or you will never get it anyway. So maybe what you want to do is right there in front of you, but the fear has been keeping you from doing something about it. But be kind to yourself, this happens to a lot of us and the fear is only there to protect you from disappointment and failure.
And finally there are the scanners and multipotentialites who have too many options to choose from. That’s because your brain is wired a bit differently. You are not programmed to have one purpose in life or one thing you are good at. You are programmed to be good at many things, the one chief thing being LEARNING. Scanners love learning and they learn fast. You are not supposed to choose one of your interests to the exclusion of all else. You are only supposed to choose the one thing you do first! Or if you are an extreme case, maybe the 3 things you will do first. You can do all the things you want, just not at the same time. And yes you do have time even if it doesn’t feel like it.
If you feel you need more in-depth help, please book yourself a FREE 20-min pathfinding call with me to clarify where you are and where you want to go and how I can help you on your path.